"They made us believe that" the great love "only happens once, usually before the age of 30. They did not tell us that love is not activated, nor does it come at a certain time.
They made us believe that each of us is half an orange and life only makes sense when we find the other half. They did not tell us that we are already born whole, that no one in life deserves to carry on their shoulders, the responsibility to complete what we lack.
We were led to think that a formula called "two in one" : two people thinking The same, acting the same, was what worked. They did not tell us that this has a name "annulment" and that only individuals with their own personality can have a healthy relationship.
They made us believe that marriage is obligatory and that desires must be repressed.
They made us believe that the cute and skinny are more loved. They made us believe that there is only one formula to be happy the same for everyone and those who escape from it are condemned to marginality.
They did not tell us that these formulas are wrong, that they frustrate the people, they are alienating and we can try other alternatives.
No one is going to tell us this, everyone is going to have to discover it alone. And there, when you are very much in love with you, you will be able to be very happy and you will fall in love with someone.
We live in a world where we hide to make love ... although violence is practiced in broad daylight . "
John Lennon
I do not need you, I prefer you. I know, it's hard and you have to leave many things behind to say those words. Among other things it is necessary to abandon the cowardice and cover yourself with courage, courage and patience. Much patience
Patience to explain that the fact of preferirte is that I can come to love you and value you immensely more than if I need you because that means I do not need supplements to cover my shortcomings or my shortcomings. Nobody in life has the responsibility to complete what I lack.
By this I mean that the only person we need to live is ourselves. And I, in full right to use my emotional freedom, I choose you to be by my side and enjoy each other.
I have decided to stop enslaving me and tie me to my emotional past. I will not let others define who I am. I'm going to find a way to express my whole being and explore the depths of my ocean. Then I can be myself.
I promise never to give pleasure to others without first giving myself the pleasure. I'm not going to get carried away by ordinary people or by the current of people. From now I release the strangulating effect of my thoughts and I will work because my decisions make me feel good about my life.
Getting rid of the patches and bandages that cover my wounds will help me create a deep and authentic bond with you. Because if you do not love with freedom it is preferable not to love, because the emotional dependence destroys.
I do not know if I will love you all my life nor do I know if I will do it with the same strength always, but what I do know is that right now you I prefer over all people. You do not occupy my mind every second, but you always go with me.
I choose love and I still own myself. Because the strongest feeling of love that exists is love towards oneself. Because, as Perls said:
" I am Me and You are You. I am not in this world to fulfill your expectations and you are not in this world to fulfill mine.
I am me ... A complete being even with my needs. You are you ... A complete being even with your needs.
If we meet and accept each other, if we can not question our differences and celebrate our mysteries together we can walk side by side, to be mutual, respectful, sacred, and loving company on our way.
You are you. I am me. If at any time or at any point we meet, it will be wonderful. If not, it can not be remedied.
I lack love for myself, when in the attempt to please you I betray myself. I lack love for you, when I try to make you as I want to be instead of accepting you as you really are.
You are you. And I am me. "
Source: http://lamenteesmaravillosa.com/no-te-necesito-te-prefiero/
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