How difficult it is to face a break, especially for the person who does not make the decision, but his partner has communicated his decision to leave because he no longer loves her or because, simply, he no longer wants to continue with him or she.
Some of the aspects that should be taken into account to cope with the loss of the couple are:
Accept the pain
The saddest thing to face a separation is to refuse feel the pain for believing that you can not get through this suffering, but it is better to feel it, because this will allow the duel to be lived naturally and heal naturally and faster. To the extent that we deny pain, it clings even more and the process to overcome it lasts longer. In order to overcome the pain of loss, this sadness must be fully felt. If the person needs to cry, he should do it, not keep anything in.
Accept the other's decision
It is better not to insist or try to convince a person who has decided that he no longer wants to continue . It is worse to pray, because if he stays will be because of pity or because he is a person who could not handle the situation at the time he was trying to convince him to stay, and sooner or later, most likely to return to manifest he does not want to stay by his partner's side, which was due to his insistence.
If this happens, the person who will be severely hurt is the one who forced, so to speak, the other person to continue together to him or her, his self-esteem will decrease, his dignity will be in tatters and the pain will not decrease, but, on the contrary, will increase.
Trust in oneself and giving up hope
It is necessary to draw strength and be able to overcome the loss, and to think that the future has something better prepared, and that I deserve something better. Forget that the person could be confused and that it will happen and everything will be as before. This is more a self-deception than a reality. Distorting reality in this way, so as not to feel the pain, will make this person delay even more in accepting the break.
Caring for dignity above all
Even more important than not feeling pain and trusting oneself to be able to get ahead, is to love oneself, therefore one should not lose dignity. If the person, due to the fear of being left alone or of losing the "love of his life", fails to respect himself and allows any kind of humiliation, he will get, in the medium and long term, very hurt.
If the person, for a lot of pain , love or fear that you feel does not remain in a dignified attitude and on the contrary, shows an attitude of submission and prayer, most likely, is that all you get, is the contempt of the other person.
Leaning on others
The support network is paramount when facing a couple breakup. Above all, the support of family and friends should be sought, who are the ones who generally accept unconditionally the person who faces this situation, and who will support it above all things, without questioning and without blaming it for this rupture . But it is also important to consider the possibility of seeking the support of a professional, who provides the necessary information on how to deal with this situation and provides the support that each person needs in particular.
Getting away from what hurts ]
It is tempting to look at memories, go to places where they were together, look at their Facebook, etc. However, if you really want to overcome this break, you need to commit yourself and avoid everything that reminds you of this person, because The only thing that is achieved is getting hurt.
Avoiding the feeling of sadness, of talking about this person, is paramount. You must change the switch and think about something else, it does not matter what.
Do different things
Even if you do not have the will, you have to commit to doing different things. Carry out various activities, especially on weekends, such as going out more with friends, family, registering in the gym, in a workshop that one likes, going for a walk, etc. All this helps a lot to recover more 'soon, since the mind is busy.
Remembering both the good and the bad
When remembering the moments that were lived with that person, Do not just think about the good, you have to force yourself to also think about the bad. You should think about those things for which the relationship ended, write everything that was not satisfactory, pleasant, positive in the relationship and, when the person is melancholic, it is good to take the list out of the portfolio and read it out loud . Forcing oneself to feel unpleasant sensations and feelings.
The ideal is to go to a specialist, but the person can try with these tools that will serve as support.
The most important thing is that you do not lose your self-confidence, however beautiful it may have been the relationship, can end by a decision of one or the other, or both, no one can force someone to be with you, therefore you have to have a world of your own and not depend so much on the couple.
Accept the pain , and not insist or want to convince the couple is essential. Using energy to get out of this situation and to heal, and not lose dignity is very important. Time to time!
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