Although at times it seems to drown or squeeze too much, they say that no one dies of love anymore. That all, and even in the worst conditions, we can overcome a sentimental break, we just have to accept it and decide to start over.
Psychologists talk about 6 phases. A first phase would be denial where we do not accept that the relationship is over, and we still hope to recover that person. The second would be that of anger, anger and anger in which the reasons for what happened are looked for, both in you (what I will have done wrong) and in the other person. Then, the negotiation phase would come, in which you start looking for solutions . The fourth covers a period where the sadness and pain itself is experienced, and we want to mourn that pain. And finally, that of acceptance which assumes what happened. Some authors also expose a sixth phase: the assimilation . In it, everything is overcome, assimilated, and you can talk about it without getting excited.
Some tips to overcome the rupture:
1.You can be sad
It is important that you allow yourself to feel and assume the loss. Striving to be well, does not help you to process what you are living, in addition to producing a very large emotional strain since you are trying not to feel.
2. Do not let sadness take possession of you
You may be sad, but do not let it take hold of you. You have to keep busy and not stop fixing, eating or sleeping, otherwise you will fall into a hole of personal self-destruction.
3.Get with your friends
It is important that you go out and have fun with friends. You can tell them how you feel if you want, but you should put more interest in how they are, let them entertain you with their novelties.
4. Do not deify them
Do not remember the best moments with them, you must remember that the relationship he was failing, without thinking who was the good or the bad in the relationship.
5.Do not hate him
Wishing him evil will not make you feel less sad, it will only generate discomfort in you.
6. Think in you
Make new activities that fill the spaces you had with your partner. Alomejor have a dream that now if you could specify and achieve your goals, work on it as soon as possible.
7. Accept the distance with friends and people in your partner's circle
Respect and understand that some friends will be on hand of your partner and others will approach you. Some will support you, but do not get angry with others, do not let this hurt you. It's normal for this to happen.
8. Forget about Facebook and Instagram
At least for a while. You will get information, but you will imagine and interpret things that are not, and in a painful way. Do not control your partner, focus on yourself.
It's easy to say, but do not get bitter, the pain will go away. Do not dramatize, veil as an opportunity for growth. Be patient and do not put deadlines, you will remember many times the beautiful moments, but you must be strong and get ahead, time will pass and the pain will not burn you so much. Think about the goodness of your life, you will get ahead.
"Do not beg for love to the other person, do not ask for love to someone who does not want to be with you because being in a couple is to enjoy, not to suffer ".
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