Surely you know at least one woman, who likes everyone. The others listen when she speaks and leave her side with a smile on her mouth. And although they are not the most beautiful, they enchant the opposite sex and also usually get what they want. They are people who have "something", that "je ne se quoi" that seems magical and turns them into seductive creams.
It's called charisma. In the oldest dictionaries it is said that the person with charisma is the one who is "touched by God". A more modern and pragmatic definition asserts that charisma is "the fascination or charm that some people exercise over others."
So, is the exercise of this spell only within the reach of a few? Of course not. You just have to learn what we could call the art of being seductive, charming and unforgettable.
These keys and a little practice will help you overcome the fears and beliefs that limit you, learning to show you more relaxed, sure of yourself , close to the others and charming:
- Smile. Remember that the fear of rejection is very present in almost all of us. Therefore, the smile sends the message that we accept the other or he accepts us, and it is also contagious. On the contrary, the lack of a smile is not neutral: it sends a powerful message of rejection
- It trains the look . The seductive people throw glances that erase any fear and make the other feel admired, capable ... unique. It is an open and expressive look, but not impertinent. Try to look at an angle, because front and very strongly intimidated. If you find it difficult to hold your gaze, direct it to your eyebrows. In any case, do not take your eyes off because it happens as with the smile: not looking makes the other feel rejected and even invisible.
- Modulate your voice . Fearful voices lose air at the end of sentences, and the message they send is not convincing. But a charismatic voice is strong, flexible and enthusiastic. In addition, that voice improves your emotional state and that of those who listen to you, and builds trust. To have a better voice you can sing, vocalize, record and listen to you later.
- Communicate well . It's about learning to enjoy interacting with others. If you are shy, try to focus your attention on asking the other questions instead of thinking about your fear, and soon you will feel more at ease. In general, try to think twice before speaking to have a clear idea of what you want to say and be pleasant. That is to say, try to speak assertively without including vulgar phrases or words, without asking for forgiveness or contradicting yourself.
- Learn to listen. Of all the qualities of a charismatic person, this is the one that impacts the most. We live in a fast world where the rush and the lack of communication cause interactions to be superficial. If you become a person who knows how to listen, pay attention to others while you are with them, really opening up to what they have to say and being interested in what they tell you, rest assured that they will not forget you.
- Take care of yourself image . It's not about you dressing up in haute couture, but about giving a little psychology to your personal arrangement. So, just look at yourself, others will know what you want to convey. It's like a filter. And vary your image whenever you want: it is not the same to get dressed for a first date than to ask for a raise.
- Be generous . Never confuse charisma with manipulation. The manipulators can be seductive, but in the long run they are harmful to themselves and to others. The charisma that truly falls in love is that of the person capable of giving smiles, words of encouragement, a warm look, a detail ...
- Enhance your personal stamp. Your way of dressing, an unusual physique, a particular way of telling stories ... Think about what distinguishes you and make that trait your personal stamp. Here is worth inspiring other people, as long as you can then make yours that quality.
- Practice . Being charismatic is an attitude. It consists in choosing to promote the best of ourselves and of others. That requires knowing oneself and practicing hard. Remember that nothing happens because of a bad day. Permit yourself and smile again when you feel better.
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