We explain how to love you more and better.
The key to being able to love other people is to love ourselves . It is impossible to offer to others what we lack: if we are not able to feel love for ourselves, it will be impossible for us to have a healthy relationship.
What exactly means "to love oneself" "?
Love yourself is very much linked to knowing how to take the opportunity to get the best version of each one discovering the potential we have at all levels : affective, romantic, spiritual ... To love oneself also means to be honest with ourselves and with others, and to commit ourselves to one's own and others' life and well-being.
In addition, loving oneself also implies being Attentive to our vital needs and accepting, respecting and loving us for being who we are .
1. Poses with optimism the present to build a good future
Love yourself also goes through stop demanding more than we really are . Aspiring to improve in life and as people is a noble project, but it should not lead us to anxiety and underestimate how we are today. We must learn to break with the false beliefs that condition our present and our future, in addition to losing us valuable things of our current life and our personality.
2. Dare to be yourself and to show yourself as you are
To love oneself means to show oneself as we are in the different areas in which we move. We must face reality, with its obstacles and difficulties . Being aware of our potential, we can better connect with people and focus on our personal goals.
3. Loving oneself is being able to love others
Learning to love ourselves will give us a greater capacity to love other people . Why? When we take care of our psychological well-being, we are working on a long list of good habits and attitudes that positively affect how we face the world. From a good base of self-respect we are in tune with other people who also love themselves, and we can establish healthy relationships that allow us to relate from sincerity and be able to grow and mature together.
4 . Lose fears and attachments
When we are ready to assume who we are, we are able to love ourselves. Then we free ourselves from the pressure to fail, and that is when the maximum personal development of our abilities and capabilities occurs. Loving oneself also implies a better knowledge about oneself. Do you know how you can manage to find yourself to be happier?
5. Open your mentality and free yourself: your life is yours
To love oneself is also to open oneself and free oneself from certain conditioning and expectations that others have placed in us. We can not allow our life to pass in a kind of bubble we must try to overcome the bonds, understand that they are only in our minds and start to connect with people or hobbies that we had not given ourselves the opportunity to know .
6. Forget social masks
To love oneself is, as we have seen in the second point, to divest ourselves of masks and conventions . You should not please everyone: if you show yourself as you are, many will appreciate your honesty and will like to share good times with you.
7. Accepting is also knowing our limits
Nobody is perfect, nobody. To love oneself it is not necessary to have unreal aspirations and ambitions but rather to struggle day by day to improve as much as possible, but within our possibilities and in a rational measure. There will be things in life that we like more or less, and therefore we must know how to choose those that make us happy and deepen them.
8. Commit less and enjoy more
Loving ourselves necessarily implies taking responsibility for our actions, without victimization or regrets. We live on a planet that has arranged a series of factors that help us to progress and to feel better with ourselves and with the environment. Does it make any sense to spend the day complaining?
9. Develop your potential
Gardner's Theory of Multiple Intelligences explains that each of us has natural instincts and talents that can be improved if we set out to do so. One of the keys to developing ourselves as people is to realize ourselves based on activities that represent a fun and exciting challenge . We have to let our creativity and ingenuity flow to be aware of the great potential we treasure.
10. Take a risk to live unique experiences
Do you know how many people have a gray life for the simple fact of not taking the reins of their lives? Seeing the days go by without leaving the routine is one of the ways to have a disastrous self-esteem. You have to learn to risk, be it in the sentimental, labor, or any other . Risking involves getting rid of many fears that we carry. This point is essential for our inner strength to awaken once and for all.
Sometimes, learning to love oneself and value oneself is not as easy as it seems. This may be due to several factors, but one of the most common is a somewhat weakened self-esteem .
By Xavier Molina, Social Psychologist.
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